Monthly Archives: December 2012

Tips for Your 50s and Beyond: Men’s Health.com


Recharge Your Brain
Adults who devoted 4 days a week to an hour of moderate aerobic exercise (running, stair climbing, or riding a stationary bike) had more bloodflow in their dentate gyrus, the area of the brain where memories are formed, according to a 2007 Columbia University study. Increased bloodflow may signal the growth of new brain cells, a process known as neurogenesis, says Adam M. Brickman, Ph.D., a neuropsychologist and coauthor of the study. It’s also possible, he says, that exercise stimulates the release of a growth factor in the brain tied to neurogenesis. Another study found that people who did resistance training once a week saw a 12.6 percent jump in a performance on memory tests.

Slow Your Cells’ Aging Process
The cells of people with high omega-3 levels age more slowly, according to research from the University of California at San Francisco. Researchers aren’t sure why, but it may have to do with the anti-inflammatory properties of omega- 3 fatty acids. “Many of the conditions associated with aging—arthritis, cardiovascular disease, Alzheimer’s—are related to chronic inflammation,” says Bowerman. She advises eating cold-water fish (mackerel, salmon) twice a week, and taking 2 grams a day of a fish-oil supplement. Our favorite: Nordic Naturals Omega-3D, which delivers 550 milligrams of EPA and DHA and 1,000 IU of bone-strengthening vitamin D.

Relax Your Arteries
Regular aerobic exercise can delay and may even reverse aging in your arteries, concluded a 2008 review in the Journal of Applied Physiology. Study coauthor Douglas R. Seals, Ph.D., a professor of kinesiology and applied physiology at the University of Colorado at Boulder, explains how: Exercise boosts your heart rate, which increases bloodflow. A better bloodflow creates more friction on the blood vessels’ inner lining (a.k.a. the endothelial layer), which, in turn, stimulates the production of nitric oxide. This improves the ability of your arteries to dilate and confers other benefits as well, like reducing inflammation and oxidative stress, protecting your arteries from developing disorders. New research indicates that highintensity aerobic intervals appear to deliver greater endothelial benefits than steady-state aerobic training, according to a study published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology.

Fight Age with Muscle
After 50, the sedentary man’s muscle loss speeds up and he then loses about 10 percent of his muscle mass every decade. This leads directly to osteoporosis. If you’ve been lifting weights, keep it up. If you haven’t, start now—it’s not too late. American College of Sports Medicine guidelines cover strength training for people over 65. Your workout should also involve more balance moves to strengthen your feet, ankles, and core and to straighten your posture.

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The Gift of Anxiety: 7 Ways to Get the Message and Find Peace | Tiny Buddha

The Gift of Anxiety: 7 Ways to Get the Message and Find Peace

Editor’s Note: This is a contribution by Ariella Baston

“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” ~Pema Chodron

If there’s one thing that has led me the greatest amount of re-invention, it’s anxiety. By anxiety I don’t mean worry or concern. Anxiety is a different animal that grabs a hold of you and halts you in your tracks.

We tend to reject its milder forms and are really terrified by its intense moments, like with panic attacks. It’s difficult to see when we’re fighting with anxiety that it can have any benefit, but it does.

Anxiety comes with some great treasures hidden inside, and they can be yours if you know how to get to them. First, you have to stop fighting and listen to the anxiety for clues.

Getting the Message

The greatest truth about anxiety is that it is a message. Anxiety is not the real issue. It’s the voice of something else lying beneath that’s calling out to you.

Most people who experience anxiety try to go after the symptoms more than its cause and try to fight it off as if it were the only thing to deal with.

That’s not how to go about it if you ever want to know how it happened, why it’s there, and how you can gain long-term freedom from it.

STOP! YOU’RE HURTING!

The anxiety message is simple; it’s just three words: STOP! YOU’RE HURTING!

When an experience like anxiety is pleading for you to stop and notice that you’re hurting, and you know this, your next step is to find that hurt. Its severity is proportionate to the scope of what you have to address—so if you feel like you’re going to die, look for something big!

Its methods of stopping you are varied and some of the common ones are: spinning thoughts, feeling disassociated, heavy breathing, and a racing heart. Whatever works so that you’ll finally pay attention, it will customize for you.

The loudest stop message can appear as a panic attack and causes a sensation that you feel like you’re going to die. Dying is the ultimate definition of stopping within our physical experience, and that’s why we can feel that way.

The good news is that it’s an illusion. Anxiety will not hurt you in that way; but until you catch on, start listening, and heal the source of the messages, it will keep trying to spin you around so that you’re facing it long enough to hear what it’s trying to say.

“Hey! I’m talking to you! Is she still ignoring me? UGH! Ok body, it’s your turn. Make her feel like her heart will explode. HA! You stopped working overtime didn’t you? Gotcha! Now look…we need to talk…What? Now you’re hiding in a movie? Oh no you didn’t! PANIC ATTACK!”

Energy Conservation

Anxiety can feel cyclic as it persists, and it’s easy to feel haunted or trapped by it. You’re always in control though. The body, a part of nature, always seeks a point of balance and rest. When anxiety becomes cyclic and seemingly out of your control, it’s still just a part of you.

It’s being maintained by you, for you, until it gets enough of your attention for healing to take place. Whatever you keep doing or ignoring (maybe the things that led to its nascence) will continue to recreate it until you go about things differently.

This is an important realization because it can help you shift from feeling victimized to feeling empowered. It can only continue as long as you delay tending to what’s beneath the message. Anxiety cannot cause you to feel discomfort forever. It will motivate you to heal, and then leave once you do.

Who/What Sent the Message?

Anxiety messages can come from anything negative you’ve chosen to carry forward. It can be a traumatic or painful event left unresolved (usually through having had an attitude of sucking-it-up, being tough, trying to forget etc.).

It can be someone or something you have yet to forgive, or a long running perception of lack that has hindered your growth for too long.

My anxiety disorder came from high insecurity, an excessive need for validation, a frantic quest for completion through relationships, and an inability to acknowledge who I really was.

I ran around trying to please others and attempting to be who they wanted me to be. On the anniversary of a particularly painful break-up, where I convinced myself I had become less than a full person, I had my first panic attack.

It completely bowled me over and continued to do so for 4 years as it tried to get me stop and heal.

It worked. The experience of an anxiety so severe that I couldn’t leave my apartment was completely successful in making me turn my gaze away from the outside world to my inner world, where I seriously needed to focus. I could finally heal and grow.

Who I became next was a happy, empowered, compassionate person who was more focused on matters of the heart and fulfilling myself than approval from others. Anxiety became my greatest life-shifting gift, and I’m forever grateful.

Receiving the Message

Spending time with anxiety to discover the source of the message and what you have to heal can be achieved in many ways. You have to find what works best for you, but here’s a great series of approaches that seem to help everybody:

1. Welcome it.

Make friends and peace with anxiety immediately. Talk to yourself and the anxiety reassuringly: It’s ok. I’m listening. I want to hear what you have to say. I know you’re just trying to get my attention and that the more directly and peacefully I listen, the sooner you’ll stop repeating yourself.

Fighting with anxiety or resisting it will cause it to persist.

2. Write about it.

I know it’s trite to journal since it’s a suggested solution to most personal troubles, but the slower pace of writing and full engagement of your senses helps you travel down the path of the anxiety message to its source.

We don’t always know where our anxiety is coming from, so we have to take the time to dig and poke. Plus, we’re literal people. Our thoughts are literal. By using a linguistic mechanism the analogy of anxiety message becomes more clear and easier to work with.

3. Laugh.

Bring more laughter in your life. It will help you take life less seriously.

4. Love.

Express love for people, places, and things that you cherish. Be a greater beacon of love.

5. Help others with their anxiety.

The more people you help with anxiety, the greater a vocabulary you’ll develop, and this will help empower your inner dialog for when you’re sitting with anxiety.

6. Meditate.

Anxiety races thoughts and can be very distracting. With a rushing mind, it’s hard to hear the anxiety message and follow it back to its source. Meditation helps tremendously.

If you can learn to notice your thoughts without attaching to them—seeing them as cars passing by as you stand on the edge of a busy highway—you’ll become better at picking out what really matters in this moment.

7. Realize that You Are Enough.

Be accountable, no matter how much “such and such/so and so did” to you. It doesn’t matter. Now is what we have to work with. Tomorrow is what we have to create.

Realize that you are your own solution. You have what you need to look clearly; to hear and to heal. Anxiety is a message born within you, speaking to you through you, and therefore it’s within you to heal.

Receiving the Gifts

By learning about anxiety, spending time with it and finally holding in your hand, you can enjoy the next step: You can relax your grip, and let it fall away. It will have served its purpose. You will have loved that part of yourself and it won’t need to get your attention with such a difficult message again.

You will be connected. That’s the first gift.

The second gift is that feeling connected and with realizing that you’re enough can lead you to a cycle of inner fullness. It can give you an easy-to-remember awareness that you’re up for this, whatever the next exciting challenge or painful event may be.

The third gift of anxiety is that it gets you to recognize your own power with, instead of power over, yourself and your life.

All you had to do was listen…

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Richmond Solutions: Enhancing Your Interview Performance – The Power of Practising

ENHANCING YOUR INTERVIEW PERFORMANCE – THE POWER OF PRACTISING

The hard work on your applications has paid off and you’vebeen offered an interview for a sought-after job. But as your joy at receivingthe invitation wears off, the reality that you are so close to achieving yourgoal sets in. What do you need to do to make sure you secure that much soughtafter job?

Perhaps it’s a while since you were last interviewed and youare not confident how well you will perform at interview? Or maybe you’reseeking a career change and so you need to ensure that you’ll portray yourselfin a new light? Or this particular job is your next big break and you cannotafford to miss out on it? You don’t want interview nerves get in the way ofmaking a powerful impression.

Watch our video offering our 5 top tips on succeeding at job interview

If you can, practise and then practise some more.  Sometimes, it helps to have an objective viewand working with us could make a real difference to your performance atinterview. Our training consists of an in-depth one-to-one session lasting upto three hours during which we’ll not only put you through your paces in a mockinterview but we’ll also look at your overall presentation and coach you onimproving your preparation. Our training is bespoke – each session is designedwith the individual client in mind and we will concentrate on what you need to improvein order to interview well.

But if there’s no chance to practice, you still don’t wantto waste your chance. What can you do to ensure you’re composed and ready onthe day? Our free online guide will give you more detail but here arethe basics that you need to cover.

  • Prepare. A good candidate is a preparedcandidate. It goes without saying that you must look at the company’s websitebut you should aim to research beyond that. Not only will this help you toanswer questions confidently, but it will help you prepare good questions toask the interviewer.
  • Understand the role. So far as is possible, findout where it fits in the organisation and what will be expected of you if successful.If you can’t glean this from your research, make a note to find out before youleave the interview room.
  • Know who you’ll be meeting. Evidently you need to know who to ask for when you turn up but also try towork out what makes your interviewer tick. There’s a reason that they’reinterviewing you and you need to relate to that!
  • Get the basics right. Make sure you know thetime, date and location of the interview and check your journey and how long itis likely to take. Also, make sure you dress appropriately for the interview.This all may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how often people get thesesimple things wrong.

And finally:

  • Don’t believe it will just be “all right on thenight”. Interviewers can easily tell the difference between a well-prepared andpoorly prepared candidate.  If you thinkwe can help you, we believe that working with us is an investment you won’tregret.

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